I lost my job today. Mocha has been cuddling me on the couch (I broke the rule) since getting home... ever feel like you have spent way too much time being in the wrong place in your life and now you need to find out where that is? Any suggestions for how the hell I figure out what to do next??
Hunny... I graduated high school wanting to go to Art School. My boyfriend at the time convinced me it was a dead end. So I enrolled at a community college... Switched my majors 3 times and was bored out of my mind. I even worked at a Funeral Home as an apprentice for 11 months.
I've looked back and have gotten so angry at him for suggesting I not do what I love...
Years later, I have no degree, am getting married to the love of my life, have a wonderful little Boston-boy and the most precious baby girl I could ever ask for. Sometimes I feel like I don't belong here, that it isn't going to work. That I too, am in the wrong place.
But then I look at my pup, my daughter and my hubby-bear and all of that goes away.
I'm not going to make any snide comments or remarks about getting priorities in line or anything, because, well you should be able to do what you want. (: The decision doesn't come easily to some of us, but eventually we work it out. Just keep your chin up and remember that little dog in your lap loves the dickens out of you! (:
Though, I'll make a tiny suggestion and say apply for unemployment while you job hunt. :P But that might be a given!
Girls, i am 52, married 31 years, been at my job 35 years and sometimes I still feel like I am in the wrong place. We all get feelings like that from time to time. Just make the most of each day!! Life IS great. Especially with a BT in it.
It's something everyone goes through, at one point or another - you're lucky if it's early. You look back at the last 10 years and realize that your old dreams really aren't very interesting to you anymore. Admitting that you lost so much time to your crooked priorities, that you've made barely any forward progress in life - really shakes the world! Usually something earth shattering drives the point home.
For me, it was a woman. She had fingers in my brain, I tell you.
All you can do is cut it loose! Figure out what your options are. Take a hard look at your goals in life and decide if they make sense.
And what's so wrong with art? So, if you take a chance and get that art degree - what are your chances of really making it? Pretty low, right - but there are artists in industry everywhere, too. If you can't make it work, there's nothing wrong with managing a starbucks for a while. Not everyone needs a career.
I'm on the other side of the fence. Finishing off my physics degree but I take every art & music course I possibly can. Engineers and scientists tend to be a sad lot, not enough exposure to the real world.
Oh, I want to vent, I want to vent!
27, "most likely to succeed", coming up on my 10 year reunion with nothing but an associates degree from a community college and a job at a casino (which I rock at, by the way.) Divorced last month after 3 years of marriage. World crumbling around me and this dog has been the saving grace of my life.
Yes. I think we can all relate to being in the wrong place. And that feeling of not knowing where the Right Place is, but just that it is DEFINETLY NOT HERE! I hate all those cliche phrases that people like to tell you. "Everything happens for a reason" "when god closes a door, he always opens a window..." Please! Sometimes, you just need to vent, and you just need to wallow. And like someone said above, that dog...that dog loves you. You are the world to that dog, and he/she couldn't care less if you had a job, a degree, or a fancy house. Actually, he'd probably prefer you to NOT have a job, so you'll be around more and have a LESS fancy house so he can mess it up without getting in too much trouble.
I wish you the best of luck right now. Just keep that dog close. They always know when you need a cuddle or a surprise sneaky kiss out of nowhere.
I am 46 years old. Only had 4 jobs in my life. I recently got layed off after 12 years. The problem is we get too comfortable where we are. I was down and sometimes I still curse the [email protected]#$%@ out, A woman that I do not know came up to me at the gym and proceeded to talk to me, mind you I didn't know her. She told me I looked sad , granted I was tired from working out but she said sad. I told her of my job loss. and she said to me it was time for me to go. When one door closes another opens. I needed that push to move on and the years that I spent there were for a reason and now it was time for me to leave. It was so weird that whole conversation. Anyway I said all this to say Don't worry, Go collect you earned that right and when something comes along that suits you, you will know. So for know spend more time with your BT and family. maybe you want to go to school maybe you want to try your own business. whatever it is. Have faith .
In that time, I reconsidered my career path and ended up landing a different type of job then I had ever considered for myself but I couldn't be happier. I enjoy going to work every day, but I appreciate coming home even more now thanks to my wonderful furry companions.
Mocha, I hope your experience turns out to be for the best as mine did but remember you're not going through it alone. And from one BT owner to another, break the couch rule as often as you have to at this time! (Beware though, your lap will never be empty ever again.)
Sarah - Proud mommy to Bentley & Penelope <3
I want to vent too..lol its a good stress relief
since i was in 2nd grade i wanted to be a doctor
well i spent the last 4 years of my life racking up a 100000 bill for student loans dual majoring in neuroscience and biology and minoring in chemistry... med school will add another 100000 to that bill
however now i dont no if i want to put up with another 4 years of being a poor college student i want to start my life
i also dont want to move away for school because that means i got to leave my little baby chloe behind with my parents.... however a degree in neuroscience and biology doesnt reallly give me a great career option i would still have to obtain my phd to get a decent job..
i spent tons of time in class and on my undergraduate research project that i messed up my relationship with my boyfriend of 3 years because i picked my goals over him but i dont no if that was the right choice.
so now i have to make the hard choice to rack up more debt and suffer another 4 years as a poor college student or to start my life im 22 now and i think im ready to be a grown up lol not a college student dependent on my parents for money to get lunch with a friend
I hope everything works out for all of you and i wish i was home more to spend time with my little chloe my mom says when im not home all she does is pace and run to the door everytime she hears a car drive by
Last edited by Torrie110; 12-02-2010 at 06:18 AM.
Lots of love from CHLoe
Oh darling - I'm 26 and have two degrees that are not nearly as useful as yours and I haven't started my life either. I was like that though, not wanting to be in school and to get on with things, but you'll probably live till you are 87, so you have a really, really long time to go. My parents didn't start travelling until us kids were out of the house because they can afford to do it their way (they just went to Australia/New Zeland and did helicopter tours, great barrier reef snorkeling...!!).
Imagine all of the really amazing things you are going to do with your life though if you keep pursuing. You can have the chance to make a real difference in this world, something some of us only dream of. Take every opportunity you have presented to you, don't waste them. You never know when you will get a chance to do something this amazing again. You are lucky to have such supportive parents and the smarts to take on a degree such as yours and go on to do your PhD! And Chole will be fine, dogs are very forgiving as someone here once told me